Dear higher self: I’m feeling a lot of abundance in the relationship category and it feels really good! But I also see that I need to be ever vigilant about using ethical values and being respectful, considerate, truthful and careful about people’s feelings. I am especially concerned about how I treat C. I am so grateful that we are being friends now, but I feel that the memories of our love are right beneath the surface for us both and could come to the fore at a time when perhaps it is best that they do not. How can I be mindful of C’s feelings and at the same time explore all there is for us to appropriately explore and for me to also feel my freedom to explore other relationships?Let us take these feelings one at a time and make sure that you are exploring all there is to explore in order to grow as much as you can in this relationship with C and with others. Needless to say, relationships are all about the opportunities we give ourselves for growth. You enter and re-enter relationships over and over again in life after life for the opportunities that each gives you to grow and expand your consciousness and your emotional strength and resilience and your thinking and your physical behavior. All aspects of yourself come into play in each relationship.
Let us look first at your relationship with C. This is a karmic relationship, a relationship of twin souls trying deeply to connect and restore and reinvigorate and to bring to life the potential that is within each of you to love fully and to love ethically and to BE the relationship of total acceptance, appreciation, respect, and value that you fundamentally have for each other.
Now that you are relating in a positive way again, you have the option, the choice, the power and the privilege to do this in a totally ethical way. For you now, as you are seeking your freedom to explore another relationship, you must be truthful with C so that he is aware of your intentions. This truth can be alarming to him as it may be counter to where he is moving, or feeling that he wants to move, at this time.
Tune into C. Listen to your thoughts about C. How can you be respectful of him and at the same time explore another relationship in front of him? Is this the most gentle manner of being? Is this showing him the care and appreciation that you have for him and for the sacrifices that he is making for you to be in his life at this time?
If the answer is no to any of these questions, then perhaps it would be to your advantage to be discrete and gentle with his feelings so that you are not at odds, at least in appearances, at least on the surface, with your goals and his.
Now, it is totally fair that you be free to explore any relationship that you want. But you cannot expect C to make financial arrangements for you and at the same time you not be in the kind of relationship with him that allows for the financial arrangement to be honored. This is to say that as you connect with C in the many threads of ways that you do, you can be aware of the implications of those threads. Examine the threads and see if they are ethical and fair and respectful and valuing of the gift that C is making to you as he honors a bond of trust between you.
C deeply cares for you. You are twin souls. He is a part of you as you are a part of him. You can speak openly and truthfully with C so that he understands what your intentions are. Along these lines, you can be prepared for the physical repercussions to manifest as they might, as they will as the Universe seeks to make so a reality for you so that you can see the cause and effect relationship between all behaviors and all physical outcomes of the behaviors.
There is the physical relationship that you seek to make real with R. There is no judgment of this desire. It is whatever it is and you will learn from whatever you engage in on any level. But because this relationship could implicate C in ways – because it could affect him, it is reasonable to be prudent in how you go about exploring it. There is much to explore with R. He is a good man who has a heart of gold and a desire to learn from you and to explore life with you for a time, for a good time, for the benefit of you both. This is worth exploring but it can be explored in a way that will be comfortable for you both and for C as C seeks to also maintain and actually build upon his relationship with you. Be aware of the lasting value of each so that you know where to put your greatest energy. You can see that a relationship with C will endure for all time. A relationship with R will endure for a time but this time may not bring the fruit that you seek, in totality, in a partner. But he can occupy your thoughts for awhile if you let him. This can be an enjoyable partnership. Allow it to unfold as you might a rose from its bud in a garden. Your relationship with R will unfold in a gentle manner if this is what you seek. Enjoy the unfolding and share in openness as you bring gifts to one another. But remember the Girl Scout song, “make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold.” C for you is the gold. He is the ace in the hole, the gold standards in that he is your twin soul and he seeks to unite, to reunite, from the truest of love that he has in his heart. Believe in his love and it will reward you for all of time.
Now, there are other loves that you seek because this time for you is a time of adventure and exploration. You are enjoying the bounty in the relationships that are coming and going in your life. Much can be learned. These relationships are in part karmic as you seek to sew up, as it were, the karmic debts that you have incurred. This just means that you are on the fast track to learn some of the lessons with these individuals that had been lingering. There is a fierce commitment on the part of you and certain individuals to learn these unlearned lessons and to climb the evolutionary ladder with alacrity and force. This is needed. The time for growth and change is now. It is good that you seek change and that you seek to advance your soul. Advancement is much needed in our world and with your commitment you may find this advancement accelerated. This is good. Your commitment TO YOURSELF is unfolding as it should. You are blessed to be learning your lessons with joy and enthusiasm and with the shared intention of kindred spirits to become the spiritual beings that you truly are but have forgotten. You have been way-laid. Now is the time to resurrect the commitment of the soul and spirit and to BE, to be in your core, all that you truly are, a being of love and light. Join with the Creative Forces of the Universe as you seek to join your thought with the Thought of the Divine Being within, the God within, the Creative Spirit of Being. Be all that you are.
As you go through your day, be aware in the minutiae of the moments of life, of the ethical values that you wish to live. Listen to your soul and spirit speaking to you. Listen to the words of love, and then BE them in your actions, in your thoughts, in what you DO. You are spirit. Now BE the spirit that you ARE.
In time, you will see the kingdom of “heaven” as heaven is the loving spirit within you that connects you to the Universal Consciousness of Love. These relationships of love are showing you that you ARE love and that you can BE love. Remember your commitment to serve the beings of the Earth – to share knowledge, and to be a beacon, part of the beacon of the evolved consciousnesses on Earth who together are committed to shining a light on All that Is, so that the mass consciousness of Earth can be changed. This is needed. Earth must be healed. You are part of the healing energy, you and these friends who are sharing the journey with you. Respect, value, appreciate these friends as together you create a higher energy than any of you singularly feels the power to do. “Wherever two or more of you are gathered in my name, there is love.” Be this love. Honor your friendships. Enjoy life. Share in the physical joys that are meaningful to you and that bring you pleasure. Life is about joy. Make it so!
