Dear Angels: It’s so easy to forget my inspiration, my ethical values, my focus on being all that I can be. I’ve found myself saying things that are not spiritual. I’ve been thinking fear thoughts, not overwhelmingly but these ways of being seem to insidiously slip back into my life. I resist my spirit energy. Why? How do I regain my spiritual footing?The behavior of the spirit is the behavior that embraces all the ethical values. To live a spiritual life, one must be free of all fear thoughts, all fear thinking, all fear beliefs, and live from each and every one of the ethical values.
If this sounds like a tall order, it is. But this is also to say that we should not berate ourselves if we are not living spiritually, because to live the essence of spiritual behavior takes a great deal of focus. It takes millions of lifetimes to get to this point. Getting to this point is the purpose of being human. It is our goal as a soul and spirit living in a physical body.
So do not be sad or down on yourself if you have not attained that point. You are at the level of disambiguation, where you are deconstructing the realities around which you have built perceptions. In other words, you are looking at the beliefs within your mind, the fear beliefs, and you are deconstructing them. You are examining them and coming to understand how you have built the perceptions and how you can change them.
Let us examine one such belief. You have the belief that you must have a man in your life in order to be happy. This past weekend you discovered that you do not need to embrace this belief. You discovered that you indeed do not need a man in your life in order to be happy. You discovered that you relate very well to others without a man at your side and that in fact you feel confident and pleased within your own self without the enhancement of an intimate relationship.
This is not to say that having a man in your life, at your side, is not a good thing or a welcome thing. It can and indeed is, if it is the right person. But you discovered that your perceived need is just that: perceived. You can change your perception and therefore change the circumstances of your life in order to be happier.
To release attachments is part of the disambiguation process, part of letting go. You see, there is nothing in this world that we truly need as a physical entity other than pure water, pure air, and pure food. Love is a necessity of the soul and spirit, and joy and peace are necessities, elements of the soul and spirit. But insofar as physical need is concerned, you only need these elements that sustain the physical body. To release attachment to all else is a freeing thing, and by freeing your mind of the attachments, you allow the energy of the universe to flow more freely in and out of your energy field. You open yourself to all that is to become a part of you and your life.
(Jun 5, 2008, 10:15 PM)
Now, your pursuit in writing these “angel writings” is to open yourself to all that is and to become more and more the being that you are at your core. You are seeking to find the center of self, the core of self, that is love, truth and equality. These are the essential ethical values of the spirit. These values define the infiniteness of you as a soul and spirit because you are a part of all that is, and as you live your ethical values you create a bridge to all that is.
Think about the elements of your life that you wish to change. Do you wish to be more honest, more open, more real, more true, more abiding, more faithful, more communicative, more loyal, more peaceful, more helpful, more caring, more intact and integrated as an ethical being? To be all of these things – to hold them within a focal point of being – this is a true test of wherewithal and intention. As you have the intention of change, and as you combine this intention with knowledge and will, you become more of what you think about.
So think about the changes that you wish to have. Hold them in the forefront of your mind. Make a list. Remind yourself of the items on your list. Share your list with others. Swim in the thoughts on your list and believe that you are capable of change. Know that as a human being, your very being is the energy of change. You see, when you as thoughtforms began to create (just as your Creator created YOU), you showed yourselves what CHANGE is. Change is the state of flux within which all of the Universe resides. There is no element of the Universe that is not subject to change. Even the energy of the Creator is the energy of change. All within and without grows, expands, changes, mutates, transforms, becomes more, breathes in and out and transmutes. The very Universe within which we live is the most radical and profound example of change. The Big Bang was change. You are an element of the Big Bang, and as such – as a being created within the energy of change – you will constantly and eternally change.
So do not be afraid to change. Embrace change as the energy of normalcy. Understand that finding joy is finding change. Grow, expand and allow change to gracefully take place.
In your life, you are looking at changing a way of thinking about your attachment to having a man in your life. You are wondering how you might describe this new-found feeling of freedom to P. Understand that P, too, has a belief that he is working on, many beliefs, that bring him into his relationship with you. But his needs and his beliefs should not concern you, that is, you may care about them but insofar as your lessons go, your lessons are unique to you and germane to you and to your thinking processes at this time. So have compassion for P and for yourself, but do not fall into the trap of taking on his lessons as your own. With respect to the changes afoot for you, you will want to address with him those that are important to you, and at the same time ask him to share those that are important to him, so that you might work together to solve the riddle of how to emerge from an intimate relationship into a relationship that can still be viable without being intimate.
This is a challenge because feelings and sensitivities can be fragile. When emotions are concerned it is good to be graceful and gentle. Speak from the heart. Speak lovingly and caringly for the soul and spirit that is P. You and P have shared time together in many relationships in many lifetimes. There is a familiarity that you can put to use when you speak with him. He will understand your meaning because he is in tune with you. He may hesitate but he will know within. And as you trust that he knows within, you may share the deepest part of your heart with him so that he hears the truth of your words and the truth of your heart.
Speak of the love that you have for him. Speak of your goals. Speak of your wishes for a relationship. Speak of what you want, not of what he lacks, but of what you seek, with the understanding that what is important to you is worthy of your time and energy. So what is it that you seek? The fullness of a relationship? The ease of connecting? The sharing of personality traits, the general demeanor, the exuberance, the artistry, the focus on design and creation, the joy of sharing on a daily and hourly basis. These are not elements that you would find with P at this time because of the focuses that he has in his life. This is what we have been saying, but you are finding the physical truths that uphold the thoughts you've revealed on paper. This is good. This validates your spirit inspiration and shows you that you can indeed trust what your mind and emotions have been showing you.
Now, rest assured that P is aware of these energy streams. He is, as we have also said, a great being with tremendous depth and insight. In fact, these are the energies that draw you to him and that form a magnetic bond between you. But as there are other elements of equal and significant weight, you must weigh them all and understand that it is fortuitous at this time to forge a new relationship that will serve your mutual needs in a more fruitful way.
Your time with P has been a healing, a healing of great proportion in sync with the need that you had for his cooperation with your soul and spirit on a soul and spirit level. P has touched your soul, as you have his, and as such you are joined in a forever bond that does not depend upon physical proximity to be sustained.
But as you do indeed seek a relationship in the physical world, your parting with P will allow you more leverage, more room, more expanded energy domains to find and create the kind of relationship that you seek to bring to maximum fruition.
Remember again that your love of self is the greatest love that you will find. Your loving relationship with your soul and spirit and physical ego self will be the relationship that brings you comfort and joy and peace as no other can. So focus on the love of self, knowing that all good will be magnetized to this energy.
P in his heart kisses you goodbye, as he fully understands what the challenges are for him ahead, and for you, too. You have both joined during this time of your togetherness to draw more closely into your conscious awareness the understanding of what your challenges are in finding happiness and peace and joy. For each of you there are different lessons and yet some are shared. Loving self is always and ever the challenge that each human being may count as the tallest order, the greatest order. Love self and your love will extend to each other.
Be kind, as you are; be kinder, as you can be. Reach out to others and let the heart flow freely to share in the spirit of true friendship, true appreciation, true love. All good comes of this energy.
Be loyal; be loyal to loyalty, in the words of Josiah Royce. Have loyalty to the very concept of loyalty so that you breathe the spectrum of ethical values even in your sleep. Accord each other and accord your own selves the highest degree of respect, value, appreciation, faith, truth and independence. Know in your hearts that as souls and spirits you are free – free of need, free of fear, free of entrapment within the physical. But know that as a human, you are finding ways to live the love of your soul and spirit in the physical world.
You and P have shared this pursuit and will continue to share it as you steadily plough the fields of understanding and growth in your lives. You have shared in the loftiest of pursuits, even if these pursuits are consciously unacknowledged: you share the goal of self discovery and mind expansion. To have shared this on any level with any human is a gift; to share it as you and P have, with love and enthusiasm for the being of the other – this is one of the greatest gifts on earth. Be proud that you have shared and be firm in your pledge to continue to share, even as your time of intimacy takes a turn into something less physical. This by no means should be perceived as loss, but should be perceived as gain, for you have learned the lesson of intimate attachment, and are learning, through this time with each other, to let it go.
This, indeed, is part of the disambiguation process. Be delighted that you and P share in this way.
We will be with you as you find the courage to speak openly and readily and excitedly with P. And we will be with P as his heart, as well, is set free once again. Freedom is the blessed openness of the soul to be all that it wants to be. Direct your mind into the brightness of the future, and allow your hearts to care for one another because this is the truth of your souls.
Be in peace, share love, be love.
Good night.
