Dear Angels: I’ve been mulling over a relationship fluctuation or
change that came about last week and I’m wondering whether I acted with my
ethical values intact. What are some ethical values that I lived in that
exchange? How could I have done better? Did I do the right thing in “breaking
up”?
Always, always when a relationship change is being
considered, the question one might most suitably ask oneself is—am I feeling
joy in this exchange? Am I feeling joy in this relationship? Why am I here,
truly? What am I gaining that enriches my soul? Am I judging or am I loving? Am
I caring or am I in fear?
For most people, the answers are a mixed bag. You see,
relationships are rarely simple things—that is, the relationships that vex us
are rarely simple. But keep in mind that they are always, always, without
exception images of our own self that we are showing ourself.
So you might also ask yourself, “What am I seeing in this
other person that I do not like in myself?—if in fact you are wanting to leave
the relationship out of discomfort.
For you in this case, it is true that you saw some
attributes that you do not like in self. You saw the television viewing that
you do not like to acknowledge in self. You saw the poverty consciousness that
you do not like in self. You saw the playing-the-field persona that you do not
like in self. Whatever you perceived that brought you discomfort, these are
attributes in self that you rebel against.
Now, there is nothing to be ashamed of or offput about. To
accept that we see self in the face of every other person is a big concept to embrace.
This flies in the face of what we are taught and what we generally understand.
Even to logically embrace the concept does not mean that it is easy to
emotionally grasp. It is much easier to judge another person than it is to
judge self.
And in truth, let us not judge at all. Let us not judge
another man; let us not judge self. For in judging there is the schism of fear
that is created. When we judge, we take ourselves away from the unity and
brotherhood of man to the divided and conquered mentality, with winners, losers
and all manner of loss thereof.
We are one as humans. We have all been where others are now.
We will someday be where others are now that we aspire to be like. It is fine
to see what we want and begin to embrace the qualities, but – we needn’t judge.
Judging is an act of fear and it has no place in a spiritual environment.
So, angels, how do I rectify this? I did judge and I concluded and
I perhaps lost a friend. And yet, I was forthright and I thought I was kind. It
is hard to sort out these things…
To rectify, you work from your center of love. You surround
your thoughts with love and kindness and you change your energy. Come back to a
center of love and project this to your friend and have faith that the Universe
will bring to you that which you convey. And when you speak with your friend,
speak with a gentleness of spirit. Speak from the heart and from your
understanding that the essence of your relationship is love, an agape love that
sees the beauty of the other and acknowledges the perfection of the lesson you
are both learning.
Now, when you are contacted by your friend, you do not need
to explain in great detail the workings of your spiritual quest for
understanding. But you might convey your sensitivity and your hope that the
friendship can be not only preserved but protected and appreciated for the
benefits that it incurs both of you. He will understand because he is working
on similar challenges, and your words can be a comfort.
Direction.
Thank you, Angels. This satisfies me. I will see him tomorrow night
and I will envision a comfortable connection. I really do care for him. He has
been a fellow traveler, winding in and out of my life for many years. I’m sure
our souls are very familiar with each other. It’s a good feeling.
Yes, it is always a good feeling with the soul touches
another soul who is known from soul history and for whom the promise of return
is evident. You have a gentle pledge of friendship. This is always good to
preserve.
Thanks again. I bid you goodnight.
Goodnight.
