Dear Angels: Could you please give me guidance about the topic of friends? At this time in my life, I’m seeing a shifting in my friendships. Some have come but some have gone. The ones leaving have caused me to wonder what I may be doing that is adversely affecting the friendships. I want good feelings toward me in all the people I know. Perhaps I am not feeling good toward the people?
Linda, yes, there can be this reason for friendships leaving. What you see in your friends is what you see in yourself. If you are judging yourself, you will be judging your friends because friends are the palette that we can comfortably paint our reflection upon. Do you see things you do not like in your friends?
Yes, in part I am seeing inequality and lack of openness and a closing of the loving emotions, and judgment.
Then – these are attributes of self that you can begin to examine. What is it in yourself that you are feeling unequal about? – that you judge? That you deem unworthy? – and why?
You see, when we are feeling these feelings, it is because fear – fear beliefs about the nature of reality – are setting in. If you have fear beliefs – and all do – then you can examine where they have come from and what they relate to and then cast them aside with the knowing that they no longer serve you.
Now, the fear beliefs that you are contending with at this time are wrapped around the belief – the religious belief – in unworthiness. When we are afraid of death, we can begin to feel unworthy because we have the religious belief that if we are to be saved then we must be unworthy, so we set about, subconsciously, to prove our unworthiness. We may act in an unworthy manner; we may say words that show that we do not respect ourself…we think thoughts about others AND SELF that reflect the energy of unworthiness.
So to leave this energy, just begin to notice it when it presents itself, and then ask it gently to leave. You see, the ego controls the energy of unworthiness and the energy, all energies, of fear and fear beliefs. It is the fear beliefs that constrain your life and limit you. Without fear beliefs, you soar in a magnificent energy of worthiness. As you were made by your magnificent Creator, so you are imbued with the infinitely worthy energy of the Creator. You ARE worthy. You have always been worthy and you will always BE worthy. The challenge is to accept your worthiness in your conscious mind – in your thoughts, words and actions – and to believe in your worthiness, and thus the worthiness will become the action of truth.
Now, you may wish to examine some of the other fear beliefs that are predominating in your life now. We can enumerate these, but let us say that the REASON for these fears cropping up with intensity at this time is that it is a time of change for you, a time of major change – and the ego does not like change. The ego does not want the soul and spirit of man to recognize that change is blessed and that change can bring happiness and joy and enthusiasm and good will. So the ego has an investment in keeping you in fear.
Knowing this – knowing that all can be well if the ego is quelled – this can settle the heart and settle the mind and allow the full being to rest gently and to trust that the Universe is an infinite provider.
Do you see bounty around you? Do you see the farms filling up their silos with grain and food? Do you see baskets upon baskets of consumer items moving in and out of stores? Do you see money aplenty in the world around you? There is truly abundance in your midst. But the greatest abundance of all is not the abundance of material goods or physical things. The greatest abundance is the abundance of love that each of us has within. Truly, the limit of love within is – limitless. There is no limit to what you can express and feel and be in love.
So – believe in the energy of bounty and abundance, and believe that you are love, and believe that you are worthy of the love that is you. You never need to find love outside of yourself because you are the totality of love – within.
