Dear Angels: I am at a major point of transition. I am not happy in my job; I am moving out of my house; I am reaching out to the world to help guide me in new directions. Can you give me advice on parting ways amicably at work and better understanding the dynamics there? It has been tough. Yes, we can guide you in finding a more harmonious point with your co-workers in your job. The main tactic, if you will, is to come at your work from a center of love. You see, there is a lot of fear going on there. There is a lot of misunderstanding. There is a lot of tension. There is a lot of mistrust. Fear actually is rampant there, in you and in your co-workers, and this includes your superiors and this includes those with whom you interact on a daily basis. There is much tension in the world and you are a microcosm of this world – this universe – of Planet Earth and all the sub-worlds that you create as essential to your life. Your place of employment is for you a sub-world because it is indeed a reflection of the larger world but still a large world in and of itself. There are smaller worlds – more sub-worlds within this sub-world. And as you examine all these sub-worlds, you will see there is much tension – the kind of tension that exists when you pull a rope to its maximum point of integrity, and then there is a snap, and the rope breaks and those who are holding onto the rope fall in a heap. Some will laugh and dust themselves off; some will cry and lament that they lost stability; some will be perplexed that the rope was stretched when they did not see it coming…. The reactions are manifold but – who is resilient? Who can get up and walk away and understand that this was just one experience – one trial – one GAME on the master stage of life? For this is all that it is. It is only one game. And the world is full of games. It is how you react to the game that matters – not the game.
So – do not blame your bosses, and do not blame your co-workers, and do not blame yourself. There is no blame to be had because – who can be blamed when simply playing a game that the soul wished to play? You are learning. You are all learning.
But the challenge is to learn in peace, without consternation, without angst, without agony, without lamentation.
Can you do this? Yes, you can. You can and you will. Perhaps you need a little rest from the intensity that has been afoot. We believe that a break can be very instrumental in providing you with a new vision, a new vantage point that will allow you to appreciate what you have and allow you to accomplish those things – those challenges – those tasks that you wish to perform.
But you cannot perform them in anger or while you are feeling resentment. So you must lay your resentments down – allow them to fade – in order to be the productive and contributing employee that you are.
Now, you may wish to speak with your bosses about this break, about this opportunity to take some time off, to regain composure and to collect yourself. This time can be very fruitful. You can write. You can imagine your future. You can hoist a creative volley up into the universal energy stream and see where it lands, see what adventures await you. You are lucky. You are feeling more and more freedom. And this freedom is an ethical value that will be rewarded by the universe. The freedom that you feel is the freedom that the universe recognizes as an ethical value – and so you will be thanked and rewarded with more freedom. It is the law of attraction. It is the beautiful “mystery” of how the actions of your mind and heart and body come to create your individual reality.
So – have faith in your future. Have faith in the happiness you feel tonight as you have connected with an old friend that you care about. Have faith in the loving energy that is around you and is there to support you. Have faith in your own soul to draw you into opportunities to learn. Have faith in your friends to help you when you most need it. Have faith in your family to hold your hand, with love, because they know that your heart is indeed with them, too. Have faith in the Universe to guide you into offerings of new adventures and new learnings, new knowledge, new KNOWING. Have faith that your cats are wise. Have faith that your home nurtures. Have faith that Erica is a guiding spirit who will always, always be at your side in her heart, mind and soul. Have faith that all is right in the world and that you are here for a very express purpose.
Let us examine this purpose. For each of us, the purpose of life is to be happy. This is simple, no? But – happiness seems elusive as the pursuits of survival and daily living supersede. And yet, happiness can be drawn into the daily life, and SHOULD be drawn into the daily life, so as to complement the soul and spirit. We are meant to be happy.
So what would make you the happiest? To swing on a swing all day? To eat cake all day? To swim in a big pile of money? To circle the world in a carefree jaunt with no responsibilities?
No, none of these would truly make you happy, because – life is not for the faint of heart, nor is it for the lazy or the unmotivated. That is to say – life is for all, but to make life sing, SING! – then one must take on life with a gusto! One must say to the world, “I am here, COME TAKE ME!” And then with arms wide open, you allow the world to penetrate your very core, so that you and the exquisite world become one. You allow life to happen in its abundance and you reap the many rewards – of challenges, of trials, of opportunities, of understandings. You make sense of each and every day.
So – we live in the physical world and we can thrive in the physical world if we give our love, all our love to living life. This means respecting, valuing and appreciating WHO WE ARE and who others are, and knowing that each and every being is here for a purpose.
Angels, I have a question. How can I ever aright what seems to have gone wrong at work? There is so much damage.
This is a good question. What is the secret of damage control? The secret of damage control is loving and respecting self. In each and every moment of your time in the office, you must give yourself complete and total respect. Understand your worth. Believe in yourself. Take those things that you do well and do them better. Challenge yourself. Be the best model you can be. Do not equivocate. Do not deviate. Stay the course. Be strong, be loving, be kind, be gentle, be good to yourself and others and never, never give in to fear. Fear is the curse that keeps on giving. It will chew you up and swallow you if you let it. Do not go there. Resist. Be strong. BE QUIET. Be the YOU that you are in spirit. Believe in yourself. In time, others will forget the fear they felt in your presence because they will feel only your love, and this will magnetize them.
So – for my meeting in HR, what is my best strategy?
Your best strategy is truth. Truth will always be spoken kindly, gently, but with conviction and certainty and authority. Speak with authority and do your homework. Be prepared. Be confident. Be GENTLE. Be calm. Never raise your voice. Speak softly. Know that you have reasons that are worthy of exploration. Know that the soul in each person present will hear your words of truth and know within themselves that credence should be given.
In terms of apologizing?
Is it necessary to apologize? No, it is not necessary. Would you gain points? Maybe, but maybe not. The point is not to apologize or not apologize but to come to an understanding of what the problem is. This could be your entrée to discussion: a desire to understand what is causing the problems. Invariably, it is a combination of factors. It is never just one. Even if the sky is full of rain, the rain is not the only factor. There are pressure systems, there are human thoughts, human behavior; there is heat; there is warmth; there are bodies of water that evaporate. Yea, there is a circle of connected factors that all play into a situation. So – what are these factors? If you come prepared to discuss some of them, your words may fall on deaf ears but more than likely your words will be received in an open way. There have not been many discussions of this sort in your office. Is it time? We would say yes, it is time. You have served a role. You will serve a role. You have work to do there and we would like to see it be fruitful but – you do need a canvas that is primed for good vibrations. You must be happy in your job. Otherwise, it would indeed be best to leave and to look for happiness elsewhere. You can indeed find happiness wherever you look. There is no place on Earth where happiness cannot reside. Even the most barren dessert can provide fertile ground for happiness, because happiness is an internal emotion. Happiness does not depend upon anyone or anything external to yourself. Happiness comes from within.
Now, today was an important day for you. You made headway because you began to think of what would make you happy! Keep it up! Keep up the focus on where you want to be, not where you don’t want to be. This, too, is the secret of happiness AND the secret of positive creation. Think of the good, and you are transported to the good. This again is the Law of Attraction. It is a worthy law to understand.
So, do not despair of your circumstances. You are lucky to be in an environment where there is some promise of good outcomes. You work with reasonable people. Your job has merits. You are challenged – perhaps not to the max but – you can create more challenges.
Still, you have the opportunity to leave if this is what you desire. You have freedom. You always have freedom. Keep this in mind because your freedom is your ticket to happiness. Knowing that you have freedom to choose your path, your destiny, is indeed a point of power. Hang onto that power as best you can because it is worth more than gold and silver. It is a passport to happiness and to joy.
So we wish you the very best in your pursuits. Believe in yourself. Believe in your family and friends and co-workers and bosses and cats and home and all those aspects of your life that are swimming in your consciousness at this time. They are all there – each and every one – as symbols of the pieces of you that you are here on earth to understand. As you better understand yourself – by virtue of understanding these symbols – you gain immensely on the stairway to heaven.
Here is to your stairway to heaven. May it unfold gracefully before you, and may your steps be filled with joy.
Good night.
